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Can you believe I’ve had my sisterlocks for a year now?
They’re coming in really well and it’s the best decision I’ve made for my hair, I have ZERO regrets. That being said, I do prefer myself with longer hair, so I am oh-so patiently waiting to have chin-length, shoulder-length and ultimately bra-strap length sisterlocks. Until then, I’m enjoying what I have with different styles. Now that my short locs can fit into a mini-ponytail, I’ve been doing some up-do’s with added hair.
I put shape wear in the same category as false eyelashes and hair extensions; they’re all fun accessories that can amp up my look for a night and when I take them off, I should still be happy with who I am.
I can appreciate what shape-wear can do for my outfits, but I also love my “sweat pants, hair tied, chilling with no makeup on…” body too! For more on celebrating all body shapes, check out an an article I wrote for Bustle about how we shouldn’t value the hourglass figure above others.
That being said, it’s fun to channel my inner va-va-va-voom from time to time, so I’m going to try on some waist cinchers from Squeem on camera so that we can all see how they work. I’ve also got five to give away (enter to win below)!
Order a Squeem “perfect waist” here and a Squeem “miracle vest” here!
One summer day, I spent 40 minutes struggling to get dressed. It took me one minute to choose the perfect maxi dress, and 39 minutes to find a cardigan that would cover my arms without making me melt in the summer heat. Turns out, there is no such thing.
Sitting on the subway, I caught a reflection of myself in the window. Everyone around me was wearing shorts, tanks, and sundresses, and there I was looking like I was waiting for snow to fall.
I pushed the sleeves of my cardigan up to my elbows for some relief, and as I moved my arms, I noticed something. Even though I was wearing a stifling hot cardigan to cover up my arm fat, I could still see my “bat wings” jiggle inside the fabric. Growing up as a big girl, I’ve tried to cover my body with everything from baggy clothes to tight shapewear, and then there’s the plus-size cardigan trick.
I realized that even if I bought a short-sleeved shrug of some sort, my arm fat disguises weren’t fooling anyone. They might be covered in fabric, but every time I moved, my arms were waving “hellooooo!” I was trying to hide something that is impossible to conceal. And, my cardigan-come-comfort-blanket was making me hot and uncomfortable.
I would like to say that in that very moment I stripped off my cardigan and liberated myself from the chains of cardigans and shrugs, but it wasn’t that easy. Even though I considered going sleeveless and letting my arms flap in the wind, I still had stretch marks to consider. I had been hiding those since the 7th grade! My tangled web of body image issues needed to be unraveled slowly. Was the world ready for my arm jelly? Even worse, was I prepared to show my stretch marks in all their striped glory?
Over time, I’ve realized that no matter how many crochet “summer sweaters” and flowy tops I buy, the truth is: You can’t hide the fat. I’m a big girl with big arms and stretch marks. I can waste 39 minutes every morning trying to shield the world from the horror of my arms, or I can throw on the cute summer dress in one minute and save those 39 minutes for something more productive.
It took me about a year to get comfy with sleeveless clothes, but since then, I’ve felt pretty liberated. I no longer ruin beautifully made formal dresses with intrusive shawls and boxy taffeta shrugs. I wear tank tops to the gym. And, I even went sleeveless on a first date once — a huge accomplishment for me.
Of course, I still do my favorite fitness workouts that strengthen my arms. But, even if I never have Michelle Obama guns, I’ve liberated myself by refusing to hide my body.
I’ve come a long way from being the plus size teen who wore sweatshirts in the middle of summer in order to hide her body. Last year, I made strides to become the plus size woman who doesn’t hide behind cardigans (if you’re obsessed with cardigans, click here).
The summer is my favorite time to celebrate my body. Bright colors, showing my arms, preventing inner thigh chub rub… these are all ways that all the ways I’ve learned to embrace myself right now.
This outfit kind of captures all of that for me… outfit details are below.
Summer isn’t over yet, so if you’ve been wanting to show a little more skin but you’re nervous I encourage you to just go for it. I promise, it feels amazing.
Summer is here so, let’s talk brazilians! I’m answering all of your questions about taking a trip to Brazil. Thinking about a brazilian wax? Read this for everything you need to know.
Q.) What is a Brazilian Wax?
A.) A Brazilian Wax is when you use wax to remove hair “down there”. When you get a brazilian, they remove everything from the front to the back (Yes, “the back”!)
Q.) Will I be charged more because of my body type? or how much hair I have?
A.) Nope. A big girl should not be charged more for a Brazilian wax. My Aestetician says that rates are based on the type of work (i.e. legs, bikini line, full brazilian) not the size of the person. If someone tries to charge you more based on your size, leave immediately.
Q.) CeCe, I’ve watched your brazilian waxing video a million times, but I’m still scared– HELP!
A.) I know it can be scary the first time, but finding the right person to do your wax will help ease your anxiety. Walk into a few salons and see what kind of vibes you get. Having good chemistry with the person doing your wax makes the awkward/intimate process of waxing so much easier. Don’t be afraid to walk away or ask for someone else. Its your body and your money 😉
Q.) How do I find a Waxing Salon?
A.) I always skip nail salons, I find that their rooms and processes are often a bit shady. I go to dedicated waxing salons or spas for my wax. This makes it easier to find someone who makes me more comfortable, if needed.
Q.) The lady who does your waxing sounds awesome! Would you mind giving me her number?
A) Sure, Irina is the best!! and I’ve sent lots of my readers to get waxed by her.Click Here and I’ll email you her phone number so you can make an appointment. Be sure to tell her that CeCe referred you!
Q.) What should I wear for Brazilian Wax?
You will have to take your clothes off from the waist down, so I often wear a dress so that I can just take off my chonies (aka underwear) and pull the dress up easily.
Q.) What if I have a tummy or big thighs, can they wax me?
Yes! I always offer to help, when needed. Sometimes, I have to move my chub out of the way and/or hold my tummy taunt. Saying “let me know if you need me to help” in the beginning tells my aesthetician that she wont offend me by asking.
Q.) How do they… um… get everything?
Getting a wax can often feel like yoga. Irinia, my wax lady has me in a lot of crazy positions so that she can get to all my “nooks and crannies”, for me this is why good chemistry makes things easier
Advice you didn’t ask for but I’ll give you anyway: Always remember, having a brazilian wax can make a girl feel very… womanly *wiggles eyebrows* I always try to make sure I get my waxing done at times when it wont affect my decision making on dates. That’s all I’ll say about that!
Watch my full video on going to brazil at any size, I blush through the whole thing lol
So, before I jump into my thoughts on the first ever #theCURVYcon conference, I’ll let you watch our little recap video…
I’m still in awe that this day actually happened. If you read the true story behind theCURVYcon, you know that we had about a year to put this together. My heart is full of gratitude for many people.
Some of our gorgeous attendees
If you got a ticket and showed up solo or if you grabbed some of your girls and came in a group, thank you for coming to theCURVYcon!! As I said the other day, I don’t take it for granted that you girls see and understand my dreams…
One of our MVP volunteers passing out swag bags
We had a rockstar crew of volunteers (including Mr. Man *blush*) who volunteered their time to make our day run smoothly. Our volunteers were so friendly and kind to everyone and made people feel comfortable. Huge thank you to you girls!
Julie Henderson, Model | Kierra Sheard, Gospel Artist/Designer | Chastity & Me | Ashley Graham, Model | Victoria Lee, Model
The curvy community truly rallied around us. Kierra Sheard launched her new clothing line, Eleven60 with us on her birthday! Women who I’ve always looked up to, took time out of their day to attend theCURVYcon and hang out with everyone with no frills. Ashley Graham, Victoria Lee, Julie Henderson– thank you ladies, so much for walking our “flash runway” with our attendees just for fun!
Of course, special thanks to Amber Riley for being our Keynote Conversation. We did a survey asking who you girls would like to hear speak at theCURVYcon and she was the #1 pick, so the fact that she agreed to come is just… *hands up emoji*
Basically the point of this recap is to say THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!
…and or those asking, yes we are already hard at work for theCURVYcon 2016. Become a curvyVIP here to get special discounts and early tickets! xx