I have a question/need some advice. I’m having a hard time because I’ve fought so hard for the confidence I have, but the fact that I’ve never had a boyfriend is making me feel sort of undesirable!
I’ve never really had the confidence to have boyfriend but now I do and I’d really like that experience!
I’m wondering what I can do/where I can go to meet someone. I’m just not sure what to do! I’m going to be 21 soon and I’d love to find someone to share things and experiences with!
Any advice you can give would be so awesome.
First of all, I love that you’re telling me that you have confidence– do you know how rare and special that is? To boldly say “I’m Confident” is huge and its going to play a key role in your dating journey.
When you said not having a boyfriend was making you feel a bit “undesirable”, my heart broke a little– I know its easy to feel like being in a relationship is the ultimate validation. Trust me, I’ve felt like that before– but it is 100% not true.
Who cares if you’re single?! an unclaimed diamond is still a diamond, ya know?
Just pinky promise me you’re not going to allow being single to break your confidence, okay? *I’m holding pinky to the screen*
Okay, so back to your question. I’ve dated guys that I met in a variety of places including:
- The pool
- The Gym
- The Office
- The Coffee Shop
- The Beach
- The Club
- The Bar
- The Subway
- The Internet
You know what all of those places had in common? …Me!
I was there, being me, doing my thing and guys approached me. That can happen anywhere, trust me.
So, if you ask me where to meet guys (or girls) I feel silly giving you advice on places to go, but what I know for sure is “wherever you go, there you are”.
The confidence that you mentioned having? That’s the thing that will instantly make any location a good place to meet guys. Because people don’t approach us because they feel its the right environment, they approach us because they see something so attractive in us that they need to know more.
That’s why I made you hold your hand to the computer screen and pinky promise me that you wouldn’t let being single ruin your confidence (wait– you did hold your pink to the screen, right?).
If you start feeling down on yourself because you’re single, then you’ll be giving up on the very thing that will attract the right person to you. Does that make sense?
Instead of being down on yourself about your relationship status. Take your confidence and go do what you love to do. Dance Class, Batting Cages, 5K Race… go do it confidently and keep me posted on who you meet along the way.
p.s. Please Read this post where I go in deeper on what to do while we’re single. It will give you a even more advice