Plus Size Health & Hygiene: Boob Sweat | Remedies & How to Prevent it

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So, a few weeks ago we talked about sports bras for DDD, DD, and D cups and this week, I figured we could keep chatting about being on a fitness journey when you’ve got a lot up top *shimmies*.

I’d like circle back on a topic I covered a while ago… boob sweat (Awkward! Yay!). Anytime we have friction on our bodies, there’s a potential for things to get sweaty or for B.O. to occur. Since we’re all Plus Size Princesses here, I do my best to make sure we’re all fresh like roses, even after a workout so I’ve been testing out different boob sweat remedies and sharing them from time to time.

I have to give a huge thank you to everyone who commented on this post and pulled my coat tails on the risks of swiping deodorant between my chi-chi’s.  As some of you lovingly reminded me, some people consider under arm deodorant use to be something that puts us as risk for breast cancer, so swiping deodorant directly onto my boobs probably isn’t the brightest idea.

Your comments lead me to continue my google search for breast sweat remedies, and after deciding what wouldn’t work for me, I settled on an organic home made product from Etsy, called Boobalicoiuss. Boobalicious smells so yummy and is made from organic ingredients like coconut oil and sun flower oil, I don’t know how she does it but Joanie, the woman who makes it is a genius. My YouTube subscribers asked me to do some hygiene videos. Hygiens is definitely part of a healthy lifestyle, so here you go!

How do you combat boob sweat?

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Dating: Who Should Affirm Our Beauty?

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One of my recent guilty pleasures is this dating show where the participants meet, naked, on an island, and try to find love (does any of you watch Dating Naked on VH1?). Anyway, in one episode, a female contestant seemed to be hitching her self esteem to the compliments of the naked meathead with whom she was riding horses. “He told me I was beautiful, so that made me beautiful…” she said.

I wanted to throw a pillow at my television screen and yell, “NO! You’re beautiful, period!” The premise of the show is pretty ridiculous in and of itself, but what I found even more outrageous was this woman’s inability to feel beautiful without her guy’s assessment.

And yet, a lot of us are guilty of fishing for compliments or looking to partners for praise. I’m certainly not exempt from this. The fact is, it’s not easy to only look within ourselves to affirm our beauty. I often talk about how confidence is complicated. I know from experience that being confident is a journey, not a destination, and I’ll be the first to admit that it’s a tough road. While I try to be self-assured and poised, others’ opinions (men’s especially), have had an impact on how I feel about myself and my appearance.

My dad raised me to believe that I’m beautiful, inside and out — and I’m grateful for that. Unfortunately, I couldn’t stay in that protective bubble forever. Growing up, if someone I was crushing on didn’t feel similarly about me, I questioned my attractiveness. But, if a boy asked me to a dance, I could feel my self-esteem sky-rocket. In college, when I was single, I wondered if it had something to do with how I looked. But, when I started dating a guy who told me I was beautiful, well, then it was easy to believe I was.

Eventually, I began to realize: I was doing myself a disservice by allowing the men I did (or didn’t date) determine how I felt about myself. I mean, they call it self esteem for a reason, you know? Wanting to get off this exhausting roller coaster (feeling good about myself one month, lousy the next) I decided to return to what my father had taught me so many years ago: I’m beautiful — period. 

Dating Who Should Affirm Our Beauty

The thing is, I can appreciate the boost I feel when a man compliments my appearance, but it’s far more important that I feel good about myself regardless. I don’t want my positive self-image to be defined by the way a man sees me. I was able to put this idea to the test about a month ago when I decided to take out my hair extensions and rock my short, natural hair (you can watch that process if you’re interested). As I went from hair that fell down my back to a short cut that hits just below my ears, I knew I loved it.

But, although I felt gorgeous and had a spring in my step when I walked out of the salon, I worried that if my boyfriend didn’t like it, my bright mood would dampen. More than that: I knew that I wanted him to be attracted to me with my new ‘do. Still, I also told myself that what mattered most was how I felt about it. And, I meant it. The minute my man saw me, though, I could tell by the look on his face that he loved it. That took me from cloud nine to cloud 10.

And, it hit me: When our partners make us feel beautiful, it’s not a bad thing — as long as we also feel beautiful on our own. It’s kind of like that pair of jeans that makes your @$$ look amazing. Those jeans aren’t magic, but they might just have the power to make you feel hotter than you already know you are.

…Thoughts??? Do you think its our partners job to make us feel beautiful?

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How to Wear Ankara Prints for Work or Play

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When I was a little girl, my aunts would send me the most beautiful clothes from Nigeria, where we are from. I remember loving the fabrics but feeling like the outfits weren’t necessarily styles that I could wear every day. I always craved trendy clothing made from African fabrics. When I had more time, I would make Ankara pieces for myself but these days I’m too busy. Thankfully, the internet has come to my rescue and now its pretty easy for me to purchase plus size Ankara clothing in trendy/modern styles.

I’ve been mixing and matching my new African Wax/Ankara Print pieces into my wardrobe at work and on the weekends and here are some tips on how to wear African Ankara Prints anywhere!
How to Wear African Ankara Prints For Work or PlayPeplum is a great silhouette for the office in any print. I purchased this Ankara peplum top because I knew it would work well with a simple pencil skirt. This look is chic, professional but still lets me rock my Nigerian girl style!


Plus Size African Ankara Print Peplum TopPlus Size Black Pencil Skirt Here | Plus Size Ankara Peplum Here | Wide Pointy Flats Here

 I wore this Ankara maxi skirt during the NYCurvyCloset Sale this past weekend. I paired it with my favorite plus size denim chambray shirt. The denim gave me relaxed look that still felt put together. This skirt also has nice deep pockets so I was able to keep my phone and other essentials close to me while meeting some of my awesome readers :-)

Maxi Skirt

Plus Size Denim Chambray Shirt Here | Plus Size Ankara Maxi Skirt Here | Necklace Similar Here

Remember the other week when I was rocking vintage skirts and Tshirts? Welp, that rule easily applies with African prints. A simple black T-shirt let this tea length teal Ankara skirt speak for its self! Again, this skirt had pockets so yay!!

Tea Length Teal

This skirt was actually part of a two piece mixed Ankara set that I ordered for under $100. I snatched up the two piece set quickly because I can tuck the top into a plain skirt too (maybe a long black maxi? or even my black tutu!), that gives me at least three different ways to wear this set… winning! This look got me featured in Ebony‘s “5 Plus Size Women Killing it at Fashion Week” round up!
CeCe Olisa Ebony Ankara Plus Size Fashion

Plus Size Two piece Ankara set Here | Bag (similar) Here

Keep in mind that the pieces I ordered were hand made and most of them came from West Africa, so it took about 4 weeks for them to arrive… but it was sooo worth it!!

What do you think? Are these looks that you could see yourself rocking?

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My September 2014 Plus Size Fitness Shout Outs | #PSPfit

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Today’s Plus Size Fitness shout outs go to @My2Morrow, @TheCurveandtheLine and @ThrowingaCurveBall. Thank you for tagging #PSPfit in your workout pics! You’re in the gym, running marathons and wearing cute gym clothes too, I love it!

@My2Morrow is from Oregon, she says: Needing some of this yoga mentality right now, and passing it on to my friend to help her get through her amazing (but stressful) wedding weekend… #PSPfit

@ThrowingaCurveBall is from Australia, she says: Today I actually ran the 4km City to Surf Perth and didn’t pass out! It’s amazing what your body can do when you put your mind to it. This year has been about doing things out of my comfort zone and hell I was uncomfortable! Big thanks to my support team… #PSPfit


@TheCurveandtheLine is in New York, she says: This is the face of someone who did not want to come to the gym today. Nothing bright-ass pink tights and makeshift Ankara bows couldn’t fix… #PSPfit 

(snag plus size pink workout leggings here)

You ladies are killing it. If you’re thinking about starting a workout regimen and you’re nervous take a cue from these girls and make it happen. We’re in this #PSPfit journey together! We’re all at different levels, but the most important thing is to begin. Our bodies were made to move!

Don’t forget to follow @My2Morrow, @TheCurveandtheLine and @ThrowingaCurveBall on Instagram!

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Is Online Dating Different For Plus-Size Women?

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I always say that dating as a plus-size girl can be…different. Oftentimes, it’s downright frustrating, especially when I compare my dating life to that of my thinner friends (read more about that here). Going out to bars and clubs can make a big girl feel invisible. So, for me, online dating was a good way to meet guys without pressure.

One night, my roommate made a Moscato-fueled decision to join the newest trendy site just to see what would happened. I like having multiple dating accounts, so when she asked me to sign up with her, I happily agreed. We set up our profiles, added a few quirky one-liners for good measure, uploaded photos, and went to bed. The next morning my tall, thin, redheaded roommate had 10 messages — I had two. And, one of them was a welcome message from the owner of the site, so I guess that doesn’t really count.

Of course, our profiles weren’t identical, but within a week, my tall, thin, redheaded roommate was coming home late from dates with guys she met online, leaving me to finish our bottle of Moscato alone. Seeing how the dating floodgates opened for my tall, thin, redheaded roommate made me very aware of my slow trickle of interested men. I didn’t know it was possible to get so many messages in a day until she showed me her inbox. Sure, they weren’t all winners, but the attention was flooding her way. 

Is Online Dating Different for Plus Size Girls

Suddenly, I felt invisible again. But, I remained patient and over time, interested men found their way into my inbox, finally! The first message was from someone we’ll call Servant999, who sent me a long paragraph about how he wanted to be my love slave, whatever that means. Then, he told me I was welcome to humiliate him and dominate him as much as I wanted. Delete.

Then there was a message was from TallerThanYourAverage1. We messaged back and forth for a few days, until he asked me if he could feed me and if I would be willing to gain weight for him. Willing to, wait, what? Delete — and block.

Finally I got a message from a tall, handsome personal trainer with a great sense of humor. After messaging for a few days, he asked if I wanted to grab a drink with him. We had a decent first date, the chemistry wasn’t electric, but it was there. We continued texting after our first date, and then he informed me that he was running a sale on his personal training sessions and would I like to buy five sessions so that he can help me hit my weight loss goals? But, sir, I never told you I had any weight loss goals! Delete. (But, I may have saved your shirtless picture.)

In my post about whether dating as a Plus-Size Princess is a blessing or a curse, I weigh the pros and cons of being a big girl on the dating scene. It can feel like everyone has an amazing dating life but you, and it can feel like you only attract people who have issues or fetishes. But, someone reminded me that those things happen to girls of any size.

Deep down, we all know that quality wins over quantity every time, but when you’re the one waiting on quality while your skinny friends have a million first dates, it’s not an easy road.

I was about to delete my account on the trendy online dating site when I got a message from a guy named Adrian. The night I came back from my second date and first kiss with Adrian, I came home to find my roommate fuming on the couch with a story of some creepy guy she’d met online. I guess the weirdos really did approach everyone.

Even though my tall, thin, redheaded roommate went on twice as many dates as I did, none of them turned into anything substantial. On the other hand, Adrian and I dated successfully for a while. Maybe there is something to this quality versus quantity thing after all.

What do you ladies think? Have your online dating experiences been different than your other friends?

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Sports Bras for DDD, DD and D cups!

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The “I have to wear two bras at the gym” struggle is sooooo real!

I’ve been trying to figure out ways to strap the twins down while being active for a while now, and I’m happy to say there are more options out there for active girls with big boobs.

I am a 40 DDD and I like to order my sports bras one cup size smaller (40DD). I also like to test out different sports bras for different activities because the bra I need in yoga isn’t the bra I need for zumba, ya know?

Anyway, I dont want to overwhelm you with options, so for today’s roundup, I’ll be showing you four sports bras that fit my DDD breasts (eek!) I’ll definitely be posting more though!

sports bras for DDD, DD, D Cups

Shop The Looks!


 

Lane Bryant is Buy 2 get 1 free here

Paragon has Champion bras at a good price here

Also, my girl Authentically Emmie recommends the Enell brand here

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