The Summer I Decided To Stop Hating My Body

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One summer day, I spent 40 minutes struggling to get dressed. It took me one minute to choose the perfect maxi dress, and 39 minutes to find a cardigan that would cover my arms without making me melt in the summer heat. Turns out, there is no such thing.

Sitting on the subway, I caught a reflection of myself in the window. Everyone around me was wearing shorts, tanks, and sundresses, and there I was looking like I was waiting for snow to fall.

I pushed the sleeves of my cardigan up to my elbows for some relief, and as I moved my arms, I noticed something. Even though I was wearing a stifling hot cardigan to cover up my arm fat, I could still see my “bat wings” jiggle inside the fabric. Growing up as a big girl, I’ve tried to cover my body with everything from baggy clothes to tight shapewear, and then there’s the plus-size cardigan trick.

I realized that even if I bought a short-sleeved shrug of some sort, my arm fat disguises weren’t fooling anyone. They might be covered in fabric, but every time I moved, my arms were waving “hellooooo!” I was trying to hide something that is impossible to conceal. And, my cardigan-come-comfort-blanket was making me hot and uncomfortable.
The Summer I Decided To Stop Hating My Body
I would like to say that in that very moment I stripped off my cardigan and liberated myself from the chains of cardigans and shrugs, but it wasn’t that easy. Even though I considered going sleeveless and letting my arms flap in the wind, I still had stretch marks to consider. I had been hiding those since the 7th grade! My tangled web of body image issues needed to be unraveled slowly. Was the world ready for my arm jelly? Even worse, was I prepared to show my stretch marks in all their striped glory?

Over time, I’ve realized that no matter how many crochet “summer sweaters” and flowy tops I buy, the truth is: You can’t hide the fat. I’m a big girl with big arms and stretch marks. I can waste 39 minutes every morning trying to shield the world from the horror of my arms, or I can throw on the cute summer dress in one minute and save those 39 minutes for something more productive.

It took me about a year to get comfy with sleeveless clothes, but since then, I’ve felt pretty liberated. I no longer ruin beautifully made formal dresses with intrusive shawls and boxy taffeta shrugs. I wear tank tops to the gym. And, I even went sleeveless on a first date once — a huge accomplishment for me.

Of course, I still do my favorite fitness workouts that strengthen my arms. But, even if I never have Michelle Obama guns, I’ve liberated myself by refusing to hide my body.

Summer is here. Will you be going sleeveless?

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Plus Size Fashion: Bright Colors & Bare Arms

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I’ve come a long way from being the plus size teen who wore sweatshirts in the middle of summer in order to hide her body. Last year, I made strides to become the plus size woman who doesn’t hide behind cardigans (if you’re obsessed with cardigans, click here).

The summer is my favorite time to celebrate my body.  Bright colors, showing my arms, preventing inner thigh chub rub… these are all ways that all the ways I’ve learned to embrace myself right now.

This outfit kind of captures all of that for me… outfit details are below.

Summer isn’t over yet, so if you’ve been wanting to show a little more skin but you’re nervous I encourage you to just go for it. I promise, it feels amazing.

 

CeCe Olisa Plus Size Fashion Blog  Vintage Halter Dress

 

Thanks, Ms. Lydia Hudgens for the photo snaps

 

CeCe Olisa Plus Size Fashion Blog Vintage Halter EshaktiDress: Here | Strapless Bra: Here | Bag: Vintage | Shoes: (similar) Here

 

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Plus Size Yoga Essentials!

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Yoga is for every body type, which is one of the reasons I love it so much.

If you’re thinking about starting yoga or testing out some yoga poses/stretches, its importanrt to know that you might need to modify some poses. The cool thing about yoga is that most people need modifications in their practice, so its nothing to be shy about.

If you’re curious about doing yoga, I want you to have an awesome experience, so I’ve made a quick list of plus size yoga essentials. These are things that have helped my body as I learned to be a curvy yogi!

1/2 Inch thick Yoga Mat

super thick yoga mat with strap

 

Yoga Blocks

yoga blocks

 

Workout Gloves

workout gloves

Yoga Strap

yoga strap

 

Also, don’t forget to tag your workout pics with #PSPfit on instagram so we can inspire eachother. I featured  @round_the_way_gal on my instagram page in honor of today’s post… isn’t she gorgeous?!

plus size yoga #PSPfit

 

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Dear CeCe: Should I Shut Down My Online Dating Profile?

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Dear CeCe,

First let me say I love your blog. I only found it recently but have devoured every single dating post.

I really need your advice because I’ve become quite disillusioned with online dating. After hearing great things from my non PSP friends I signed up a couple of months ago on POF and Tinder. The problem I’m having is that most guys are only after one thing. Some of them are blatant and come out and say it, which I almost prefer so I can move on quickly. But i’ve had others that I’ve talked to for weeks, thinking we’re going to meet up only for them to send me d*ck pics which immediately ended things for me. 

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I’ve been on a health journey for a while and in the last few months I’ve lost 20 pounds and counting. I’ve got to the stage where I’m wondering whether to shelve the online dating and come back in a few months time when my curves will be more.. contained.

I don’t know if I have the energy to withstand the constant barrage of over-sexual approaches. It’s making me suspicious of all men and I think that’s unfair to the good ones who I know are out there. I’ve worked hard both emotionally and physically to love my self at any size, and I do. This is really about not wasting my time if this is the way things are going to stay.

Please help! UKPSP

Hi UKPSP!

I’ve answered your questions in a video, I’ve also got some thoughts that I’ll add below!

(For those asking, the Dress I’m Wearing is available here)

So as I kept looking at your letter something else stuck out to me. I think you also may want to just work on not “wasting time” with guys as you online date. Please read My Online Dating Mistakes for a few lessons I’ve learned in that department.

Ladies, do you have any advice for UKPSP? Chime in below!

Got a question for me? Hit me up here

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Plus Size Shopping at Charlotte Russe | Dressing Room Confidential

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It’s so weird that some of the stores I was too fat to shop in back in the day are now launching plus size sections! I can remember following my skinny friends into charlotte russe and hanging out near the earrings while they grabbed cute trendy jeans and dresses.

Now, Charlotte Russe plus size is here.

I filmed a quick dressing room confidential inside a Charlotte Russe store in California. They have some other cute plus size clothing items on their website.

Subscribe to my YouTube channel here

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Thinking About a Brazilian Wax? Read This…

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Summer is here so, let’s talk brazilians! I’m answering all of your questions about taking a trip to Brazil. Thinking about a brazilian wax? Read this for everything you need to know.

Thinking About a Brazilian Wax- Read This

Q.) What is a Brazilian Wax?

A.) A Brazilian Wax is when you use wax to remove hair “down there”. When you get a brazilian, they remove everything from the front to the back (Yes, “the back”!)

Q.) Will I be charged more because of my body type? or how much hair I have?

A.) Nope. A big girl should not be charged more for a Brazilian wax. My Aestetician says that rates are based on the type of work (i.e. legs, bikini line, full brazilian) not the size of the person. If someone tries to charge you more based on your size, leave immediately.

Q.) CeCe, I’ve watched your brazilian waxing video a million times, but I’m still scared– HELP!

A.) I know it can be scary the first time, but finding the right person to do your wax will help ease your anxiety. Walk into a few salons and see what kind of vibes you get. Having good chemistry with the person doing your wax makes the awkward/intimate process of waxing so much easier. Don’t be afraid to walk away or ask for someone else. Its your body and your money 😉

Q.) How do I find a Waxing Salon?

A.) I always skip nail salons, I find that their rooms and processes are often a bit shady. I go to dedicated waxing salons or spas for my wax. This makes it easier to find someone who makes me more comfortable, if needed.

Q.) The lady who does your waxing sounds awesome! Would you mind giving me her number?

A) Sure, Irina is the best!! and I’ve sent lots of my readers to get waxed by her. Click Here and I’ll email you her phone number so you can make an appointment. Be sure to tell her that CeCe referred you!

Q.) What should I wear for Brazilian Wax?

You will have to take your clothes off from the waist down, so I often wear a dress so that I can just take off my chonies (aka underwear) and pull the dress up easily.

Q.) What if I have a tummy or big thighs, can they wax me?

Yes! I always offer to help, when needed. Sometimes, I have to move my chub out of the way and/or hold my tummy taunt. Saying “let me know if you need me to help” in the beginning tells my aesthetician that she wont offend me by asking.

Q.) How do they… um… get everything?

Getting a wax can often feel like yoga. Irinia, my wax lady has me in a lot of crazy positions so that she can get to all my “nooks and crannies”, for me this is why good chemistry makes things easier

Advice you didn’t ask for but I’ll give you anyway: Always remember, having a brazilian wax can make a girl feel very… womanly *wiggles eyebrows* I always try to make sure I get my waxing done at times when it wont affect my decision making on dates. That’s all I’ll say about that!

Watch my full video on going to brazil at any size, I blush through the whole thing lol

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